by Melanie Barrett
What is this unconditional love that we aspire towards…some say they have unconditional love for their children..but do they really…if the child does not seem to perform or act as the parent prefers… does the heart of the parent remain completely open …does the love flow regardless of how the child behaves….I know for me it seemed not when raising my children….I was unconsciously programming my children to become winners of the ‘race’ of life…so funny…race to where?…there is only here!…

I have been conditioned to be the person that I am…programmed by my particular life experiences…as we all are….so I always wanted things to be as I thought they ‘should’ be…I had expectations of mine and my childrens behaviours….and my impulses…reactions and behaviours were completely out of my control…it is a program…and this my friends is the same for you…whether you accept that or not…

We begin as unconditioned consciousness…everything and nothing…pure untainted love….then through the process of conditioning…being told you are this body….your name is…you are a female…you are intelligent…beautiful…sociable…unsociable (all based on current particular standards set by society)..etc…etc…conclusions that you draw about who and what you are from information that you download…you should behave this way…this is acceptable…this is not acceptable…

This abstract conglomeration of perspectives and beliefs then seemingly lives a life as you…it generates its own thoughts and feelings in relation to ‘other’ abstract conglomerations (people)…

It seems logical to consider that these phantom separate people were created with the acquisition of language…first may have come the concept of time…we had the ability with language to say I have been there…now I am here…then I will go there..(with the illusion of time this separate entity began living within an illusionary timeline)…

as language grew…thought no doubt became more complex…I wonder did we think before we had so many words….were there so many worrying images and scenarios running rampant within the psyche regarding the illusionary past…present and future…

Past began to exist within a compartment that evolved within the brain called ‘memory’…we began to anticipate and project illusionary futures…an entire illusionary realm within an imagined linear timeline!

With language and time came the belief in separation from the whole (illusionary)…we believed an entirely separate self into Being!…with its own little separate universe!…I am this…you are that….I like you….I don’t like you….things became personal…competition was created…that’s mine not yours…these are my children…those are your children…I am better than you…and as long as ‘me’ and mine can be more than the ones next to us…we’ll be safe…and of course these thoughts and motivations are not so blatantly felt at the surface…they are deeply ingrained…probably deeply unconscious…but I assure you they are the motivating force at the root of every human Being….next time you don’t get what you want…when people don’t act how you’d like them to act…if you are not received in the way you’d like to be received..watch your responses…this will show you what controls your impulses…very funny as you remain still and observe…it takes honesty and the ability to not take the human aspect of yourself personally…don’t take it so seriously…it’s just a program…

And this natural evolution was of course all part of the Great plan…but it seems now that consciousness is playing at seeking to feel wholeness again…beyond the illusion of apparent separation….Some individuals seem to want to feel that unconditioned love…but the truth is that the individual cannot feel unconditioned love because it is a conditioned program…just a series of neural pathways…impulses…automated responses…so it becomes so down on itself ‘striving’ and desperately ‘trying’ to emulate wholeness or what it thinks God’s love is…the unconditioned love is the life force that illuminates the ‘person’…(all in the program!)…

The individual is a conditioned product of God’s love with it’s own personal preferences and tastes…with it’s own desires and motivations…with it’s likes and dislikes…it is perfect within it’s own unique expression…

With full love and acceptance of your ‘person’ comes naturally unconditioned love….it is the unconditioned love that is loving and accepting your ‘person’…when you love and accept you fully without judgement you will automatically accept others….you only refuse to accept in others what you refuse to accept about yourself…the human form is designed to meet its own requirements….it is selfish…it only knows its own universe…it seeks for pleasure and avoids pain…it fights for its survival because it believes in its own separation from the whole…it thinks it is alone and therefore it’s entire existence is grounded in fear…it seeks for the wholeness that it has memory of in its cells…through acceptance from others or to be better than others…again just watch how fickle the person is…how one moment it feels such love for another…then in the next moment it can feel hatred if its needs are not met…nothing wrong with this…it is just essential for greater understanding to realise what the person is…

So the unconditional love that we aspire towards is in fact the unconditioned consciousness that illuminates our personal reality….you are the unconditioned love that you seek….you are not just the individual….that is a product of God’s love…your love…that is in your care….

You could say that you are the Angel that your person belongs to….your person is in your care…so love your person…fully and unconditionally….with all of it’s quirks and insecurities….love it…love it…with full abandon…just as it is…..

So it’s not really about trying to make the person be other than it is…trying to be good…trying to be loving…trying to be better…trying to heal the world through this that I AM…it’s about taking your rightful position as the loving guardian of your ‘person’….give it the love that it always wished it had been able to receive from others….that they did not have the capacity to give you…because they believed in separation too…they are just programs too…give your ‘person’ God’s love (that it seeks relentlessly) through you….

When you are in love with your own person…not material love….but a love that completely accepts…or holds in presence ALL that the personal aspect experiences….its judgements…its fears…its feelings of unworthiness…its sadness….its confusion…its seeking for other than this…this unfolds into full Beingness of unconditioned consciousness….there is apparent dissolution of a separate person when it is held in and as presence…. and all that remains is ‘what is’ or

Love….

This love then illuminates your path…and the body that you appear as steps effortlessly into the path that is paved before it…

Presence dissolves the individual perspective…or reminds us of its non existence!

This one…heart centred…unconditional love is the true position of all Beings…eternally connected as one light…The Absolute…but this Being does not come through striving to Be it…it is already!…

In Everything…

As Nothing…

source Freedom Clinic